Pregnancy and Baby Loss Counsellor

in Guildford, Surrey & Online

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Counselling and Psychotherapy in Guildford and Online.

Life after the death of a baby can feel as though the ground has disappeared beneath your feet.


Everyday things like seeing pregnancy announcements, scrolling through social media or being around babies and young children can be intensely painful, and you may find yourself avoiding people and situations you once enjoyed.


If you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure how to face what lies ahead, therapy can offer a space to begin finding your way forward.

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How I Can Help

Ease relationships with family & friends

Baby loss can affect every relationship around you. You may feel you have to manage other people’s anguish, reassure family, or protect friends from the rawness of your grief, all while carrying your own pain. Well‑meant platitudes can leave you feeling unheard, and you might notice yourself withdrawing from social events, feeling unable to be around pregnant women, babies, other mothers or children of the age your baby would be.


You and your partner may grieve very differently, which can create distance, misunderstandings or conflict at the time you most need each other. There may be things you feel unable to say, or worries that being honest will hurt them more. If you have other children or siblings to consider, you may feel torn between wanting to shield them and needing space for your own grief. In counselling, we can explore these relationship pressures together and think about how to communicate, set boundaries and feel more supported, rather than more alone.

Be really heard

In our sessions, there is space for all of your feelings: the love you have for your baby, as well as your sadness, anger, confusion or numbness. If you named your baby you can say your baby’s name, share your journey and memories, talk about the moments that are hardest – perhaps hearing their name, seeing children the age they would have been, facing anniversaries and milestones – without needing to protect anyone else. Many people describe feeling a little “lighter” once they have somewhere safe to put into words what has felt unsayable.


Being deeply listened to and understood can be quietly transformative. You may find that, over time, you feel less alone, less anxious in triggering situations, and more able to carry both your grief and your love. Counselling is not about “getting over” your baby; it is about creating a life in which you can remember them, laugh as well as cry, connect more openly with those around you, and move forward in a way that honours both your loss and the love that will always remain.

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Find your way forward

Alongside the immediate pain, there is often the loss of future hopes and dreams: the family you imagined, the milestones you expected to celebrate, your sense of place in the world as a parent. You might feel anxious about getting pregnant again, fearful about a future pregnancy, or be facing the painful possibility of life without children. If one of twins has died, you may be trying to balance grief for the baby who died with love and care for the baby who survived, which can be deeply confusing.


Practical realities like going back to work, handling colleagues’ reactions, or waiting for and making sense of Post Mortem or other test results can add extra layers of stress. Together, we can gently process your loss at your own pace, helping you come to terms with what has happened while acknowledging that we cannot change it. We can prepare for situations and milestones you know are coming, think about what you might want to say or do, and explore how you understand your experience, so it feels a little less overwhelming. Counselling is about helping you find a way forward that feels right for you, so that over time you can feel lighter, less burdened, more able to manage everyday situations, and more like yourself again – even if that self has been changed by what you’ve been through.

Testimonials

“I can highly recommend Wendy as a warm, caring, genuine counsellor. She has helped me through 2 baby losses and has helped me to move forward with my life, remembering my little ones with love and light. I simply would not have been able to achieve this without her care and guidance. She really 'gets' all areas around baby loss and is able to support as such. I am truly grateful for Wendy, we have a professional client/counsellor relationship, but I will forever look upon her as my main support/friend through this very difficult period of my life.”

— EDG

“I just wanted to write and thank you for all you have done for [my husband] and I. In what was the worst time of our lives, I cannot tell you how grateful we were for your ongoing support. In the very early days after losing our baby, you helped us cope with life day to day, how to face the world and to get through each hour, then each day and then each week as best we could. I don’t know where we would have been without you. You taught us how to be gentle on ourselves and I shall always remember that. Thank you, Wendy.”

— R & JP

“We both found it really helpful and left feeling a bit lighter. [D] also said you changed his opinion on counselling just minutes into the session! So really pleased thank you See you next week!”

— LE & DA [After a first session following three miscarriages.]

“Working with Wendy has given me tools to be a more present and less anxious parent to all of my children. She is a thoughtful sounding board and careful listener who has offered keen insights and gentle reassurances in my journey of parenting after loss. I now feel more confident in my ability to handle the future, whatever may come.”

— EM

“Thank you for being such an important part of my healing process throughout the trickiest times [following two miscarriages]. I will always be thankful that I made the decision to see you for counselling..”

— EH

“You’ve helped me on a journey that is so lonely and one which so few understand or know what to say or do [after the loss of twins at 16 weeks’ gestation]. You listened to every thought, fear and heartache with such empathetic care and support, I will be forever grateful. Thank you.”

— LF

“Your wonderful support, understanding and great care has been invaluable in helping me come to terms with the difficult journey I am on since the twins died. I am truly grateful and always will be.”

— MH

“I want to thank you for all the listening and thought-provoking questions you have given me [on the loss of one twin]. I'm still very much on a tough bereavement journey but I feel you’ve really helped.”

— HC

“In all my life I had never experienced such intense grief as when I heard my daughter’s tragic news about [her baby]. I had seen him on scans, heard his little heart beating and was totally unprepared for the overwhelming tragedy of his loss. Seeing my daughter and son-in-law so desperately sad was the hardest experience I have ever endured. Thank you, Wendy, for your support.”

— LE

“Thank you for supporting me to live my “new normal” life. To start with, I never thought I would get out of the dark hole I was plunged into. You helped me see that life does continue - albeit differently, but that on the horizon there will be good times again, and that we can enjoy a laugh or a smile without feeling guilty. Thank you for reminding me to look outside of my grief, to find little pockets of sunshine - because they are always there, I just couldn’t see them. With huge gratitude.”

— RBP

About me

Having worked with Sands (the Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity) for 13 years, I have a deep, personal understanding of how life‑changing this grief can be and how different everyone’s journey through it is.


I work with individuals and couples who have experienced the death of a baby through miscarriage, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), stillbirth, perinatal loss, neonatal death, Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) or early infancy. I also support people facing pregnancy and parenting after loss and those living with involuntary childlessness.

My approach is grounded in humanistic and existential theories and is primarily person‑centred. In practice, this means I believe you are the expert on your own life, and my role is to walk alongside you.

I offer a warm, empathic and non‑judgemental space, and I place great importance on building a deep, trusting and caring relationship so that you feel safe enough to share what is really going on for you.

If you are able to travel to Shalford, just south of Guildford, you are welcome to visit me at home for face‑to‑face sessions. If you are further away or prefer the flexibility and comfort of talking from your own surroundings, I offer online or telephone sessions too.

I am a Registered Member of the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) and am committed to working within their Ethical Framework. This underpins everything I do and reflects my commitment to offering you a professional, respectful and ethically grounded service.


Away from private practice, I support people through all types of bereavement working with Cruse Bereavement Support, a leading bereavement charity.

Qualifications, training & experience

• CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling.

• Sands Training for Counsellors & Psychotherapists (endorsed by the CPCAB).

• Open University/BACP: Online Counselling Course.

• NCFE Level 3 Award in Counselling Skills and Theory.

• 13 years working with Sands (including as Befriender, Support Group Host and Hospital Liaison Coordinator).

• Former Trainer for National Sands facilitating Training for Healthcare Professionals.

• Volunteer with Cruse Bereavement Support.

I attend regular supervision and undertake ongoing continuous professional development (CPD) to ensure my practice is current, ethical and effective.

Sessions & Fees

I offer a free 20-minute initial telephone or online session where we can talk about what brings you to counselling. I can answer any questions you may have, and together we can get a sense of whether working with me feels right for you, with no obligation to continue.


My fees for a 50-minute session are £60 for individuals or £75 for couples. A 90-minute couples’ session is £135.


Payment is required 24 hours prior to the session by bank transfer or cash on arrival.


Session Times:

Monday 5-8pm

Tuesday 5-8pm

Wednesday 1-8pm

Thursday 9am-8pm

Friday 5-8pm

Saturday 10am-1pm

Sunday Closed

Confidentiality & Privacy

Information you provide to me, either from your initial enquiry or through your support sessions, will remain confidential unless I have your consent to share, in which case we will discuss it together first.


There are certain legal obligations where it is necessary to break confidentiality without your consent. For example, if you disclose a risk of harm to yourself or someone else (including a child), a serious crime (including drug trafficking, money laundering or terrorism) or if I am compelled by Court Order.


Further details can be found in my Privacy Policy and Client Agreement which we will go through if we decide to work together.

Get in touch

Please contact me using the form below, email wendy@wjccounselling.co.uk or call me on 07443 356503 if you have any questions or to arrange a free 20-minute initial appointment.

This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking about coming to counselling and whether I am the right therapist to help, with no obligation to continue.

All enquiries are usually answered within 24 hours.

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